"When a man takes a new wife, he shall not go out with the army nor be charged with any duty; he shall be free at home one year and shall give happiness to his wife whom he has taken.As I've seen friends marry, I've come to see how valuable and important this command is. That first year is a time of great love and happiness, but it's also the time when you truly come to know your new spouse. You learn the little things that can come to annoy you, and if those aren't resolved early on, they can become larger problems.
In modern society, I see this in many ways as being even more important. In today's culture, you don't have to worry about war so much, but you do have to worry about work. So many people today become consumed in their jobs that they don't understand how much rebalancing is necessary for a healthy marriage. If they don't focus primarily on the marriage for that first year, it's not difficult to see how that can lead to divorce later on. Also, one year is more than enough time to form a habit and become accustomed to that focus, without even realizing it. This gives them the proper perspective for later on, when children enter into the family, and allows them to keep the family first.
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